Healing mother wounds can be an essential process for women because the relationship with one’s mother can significantly impact an individual’s emotional and psychological well-being. A women’s relationship with their mother can serve as a model for all other relationships and can influence self-esteem, self-worth, and the ability to trust and form healthy relationships with others and even with herself.

If you have experienced trauma, had a problematic relationship with your mother, or have seen your mothers experience any trauma, it can create wounds that affect them throughout your life. Working to heal these wounds can help you to better understand and address any negative patterns in your relationships and work towards leading a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Have you ever been told that you look or act exactly like your mother? I have been told millions of times that I am lazy like my mother, of darker skin like my mother, and that I know nothing like my mother by many of my own family members. I have seen my mother never respond to these things to keep peace in the family.

Most people have defined mother wounds as emotional injuries that are thought to result from a person’s relationship with their mother or primary caregiver. Most speak about toxic relationships with mothers that create mother wounds, but I have a different belief around this topic, which I would love to share with you all.

After working with so many women, I do believe that Mother wounds not only happen because of having a harmful and toxic relationship with your mother but also from having a kind, sensitive, gentle mother who is not much liberated from her own trauma, who do not have a voice of her own, and the daughters who have seen their mothers suffer from patriarchy, trauma, and abuse.

I fall in the second category. My mother is a very kind, gentle, and sensitive mother. But she never stood up for herself. She remains quiet when she shouldn’t. My mother’s wounds, and many mothers out there, came from having a disempowered mother.

These wounds can take many forms, such as feelings of rejection, abandonment, or neglect, and can have a lasting impact on a person’s self-esteem, relationships, and overall well-being.

Mother wounds may result from various experiences, such as a lack of emotional support or nurturing criticism or judgment, or inconsistent or unavailable care. These wounds can be particularly impactful because the mother is often a child’s first and most crucial caregiver, and the child’s sense of self and attachment to the world is largely shaped by this relationship. But Mother wounds can also result from a mother who is not empowered and has been living with societal programming and beliefs all her life.

Mother wounds may manifest in various ways, such as difficulty setting boundaries, difficulty with self-care, difficulty with decision-making, difficulty with communication, difficulty with assertiveness, difficulty with trust, difficulty with self-worth, difficulty with setting goals, difficulty with risk-taking, and difficulty with self-compassion.

Mother wounds can significantly impact a person’s life and relationships. They may cause low self-worth, insecurity, and difficulty trusting others, leading to unhealthy or self-destructive patterns. It is essential to address and heal mothers’ wounds to improve overall well-being and relationships. There are many effects of mother wounds when it comes to business because, remember, your business is an extension of you only. 

Mother wounds can affect women in business in a variety of ways. Here are some bullet points that outline some of the ways that mother wounds can impact women in business:

Difficulty in setting boundaries:

Women with mother wounds may have difficulty setting boundaries with colleagues, clients, or employees, which can lead to overextension and burnout. 

Difficulty in decision-making:

Mother wounds can lead to feelings of inadequacy or low self-worth, making it difficult for women to make confident decisions in the workplace.

Difficulty in negotiating:

Women with mother wounds may struggle with assertiveness and may have a hard time negotiating for higher pay, promotions, or other opportunities.

Difficulty in managing stress:

Mother wounds can lead to feelings of anxiety and insecurity, which can make it difficult for women to manage stress and cope with the demands of a business environment.

Difficulty in building and maintaining relationships:

Mother wounds can impact women’s ability to build and maintain relationships with colleagues, clients, and partners, hindering professional success.

Difficulty in self-promotion:

Mother wounds can lead to a lack of self-confidence, making it difficult for women to promote their skills, achievements, and value to colleagues, clients, or potential employers.

In addition, if a woman has not addressed and healed her mother wounds, she may struggle with codependency, which can make it difficult for her to make decisions that prioritize her own needs and well-being. She may have difficulty standing up for herself and may feel responsible for the feelings and actions of others, which can lead her to make decisions that are not in her best interests.

Healing mother wounds can help a woman understand and address these patterns of behavior and build a stronger foundation for her personal and professional life. It can allow her to have more confidence in her abilities, set healthy boundaries, and make decisions aligned with her values and goals.

So let”s say that 

To understand Mother wounds, women need to go back to see what their mothers, grandmothers, and great-grandmothers, have been trained to believe in by society. How their ancestors have kept women of their household, what each woman must be going through, how she was raised, and what might have been missing from her life that she either became too toxic or too disempowered for the coming generations.

It is THE TIME for us women to start healing layers of generational and intergenerational trauma to let our future generation of women be FREE !!  

Whether you are aware of these mother wounds or not, most women have these directly coming from their mothers or through the past generations of women in the family.

Healing mother wounds can help you address these issues and build a stronger foundation for your personal and professional lives. It can give them more confidence in their abilities, set healthy boundaries, and build more fulfilling and productive relationships.

If you are having some self-worth issues, difficulty in creating boundaries, or your inner critic is louder than your higher voice, then you’ll definitely want to jump on the opportunity to enroll in my upcoming “Healing the Mother Wound” program, where you’ll receive a ton of guidance, tools, and activations on the above topics!

Satwinder Isser